"Self pity is our worst enemy, and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in the world."
- Helen Keller1880-1968, Blind and Deaf Educator

Saturday, January 3, 2009

New Year's Resolution-Renewed Hope

The Definition of Hope
"A confident desire: a feeling that something desirable is likely to happen; likelihood of success: to want or expect something: to have a wish for something to happen or be true, especially something that seems possible or likely." (Encarta)

It is tough to stay in that place of hope. I have been down it so many times before. I am currently waiting on the two week period between IUI and discovery- today is day 10 post insemination. I wonder- when will it be my time? Is this my time? I have almost become numb from the process.

I started spotting yesterday- I can't tell the difference between implantation bleeding that I experienced last April and the onset of my menses. All will be known soon enough. I think I may take a pregnancy test tomorrow.

I guess what's different now is that I feeling a bit run down. It's been almost 4 years since I began this journey. Someone recently said to me that it is easier to think about DE when your back is up against the wall. I know what she means. If I had agreed to DE three years ago when it first came up, I would have a two year old by now. My mother would have met my baby before she died. Ahh, would of, could of, should of. Silly me. No need to go down that road again.

This "doom and gloom" I am sharing is not what it seems. My new year's resolution is to get back on the hope bandwagon- to believe that I can have what I want, even if the picture isn't exactly what I had planned. What I truly know now is that this year I will become pregnant, no matter what it takes. I am not quite ready to move on to DE yet, but I am damn close.

Let's not forget 2008. It was the best of times, it was the worst of times. I had my dreams answered with the surprise pregnancy. Wow I was so happy. G*d how happy my baby daughter made me. Then the loss of Sally Ann was definitely the worst thing that has ever happened in my life. In an instant, my hopes and dreams were gone. G*d that really sucked ass.

The only thing I can hold on to is what she taught me in her short life within me- things like unconditional love, my willingness to protect my child at all costs, the utter love between myself and my husband. I would be remiss if I didn't mention that she also taught me that I can get pregnant when I had pretty much given up on that possibility. And her death uncovered a rare clotting disorder that I have. That knowledge could have actually helped to save my life.

The legacy of my Sally Ann will live on in my heart forever and my best tribute to her is to be the best mom I can be. That is how I will honor her memory.


Hope said...

As hard as it is, I think it's wonderful that you are trying to think about Sally Ann's legacy-the best way you can honor it is to just be the best you can be! I'm sure she would be proud of you!

I LOVE that definition of "hope." I need to make sure that I take the time more often to really think about this word...it is my name, afterall! Thanks for reminding me!


mrsmuelly said...

Renewed hope - I think that's a great resolution. I'm praying that the spotting is implantation (even if it's different than before). You WILL be pregnant again. Sally Ann will send her mommy a sibling!

Travelwahine said...

Oh Lisa, I hope it's implantation bleeding. Yes, I HOPE with you. I will keep my fingers crossed and pray that it is.

Much hugs to you. I love the definition of HOPE. I hope this year we can all have more of it.

I Believe in Miracles said...

From Romans 5:1-5

"Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we rejoice in the hope of the glory of God. Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us."

This describes your year to me. I am praying for you that 2009 will be amazing and you will totally make Sally Ann super proud.

Zil said...

Lisa - You commented that my post moved you to tears. Well it's your post who prompted me to write my post. Your focus on hope and the future is so inspiring. It's been a true help to me on this journey. Thank you and let's lift a glass to 2009!

Lisa DG said...

Update unfortunately, not preggo this time.